Before You Visit Our Ukrainian Church

12 Things I wish I had known

based on lecture of Frederica Mathews-Green

Welcome to Our Lady of Perpetual Help Ukrainian Catholic Church of the Eastern Byzantine Rite. There are a number of things about our worship that are different from the services of other churches, whether Roman Catholic, liturgical Protestant, or evangelical. In an effort to help alleviate confusion, here are twelve things I wish someone had explained to me the first time I visted an Eastern Church.

1. A Sense of Holiness

If you are from a Protestant or non-liturgical tradition, you may feel overwhelmed the minute you walk in the door of an Eastern Church. You will find yourself surrounded by a glaze of color in the priests vestments and the icons that adorn the walls. The pungent odor of incense will assault your nose, possibly making you sneeze. Rich, deeply moving but unfamiliar music will fill your ears. All around you people will be doing things - lighting candles, kissing icons, making the sign of the cross, bowing, standing in prayer - everything but sitting still. To someone accustomed to four bare walls and a pulpit, all this may seem pretty strange.

It is important to remember that none of this is an end in itself. Everything we see, we hear, smell, touch, taste, or do in the Eastern Church has one purpose and one purpose only: to lead us closer to God. Since God created us with physical bodies and senses, we believe He desires us to use our bodies and senses to grow closer to Him.

2. Stand up, Stand up for Jesus

In the Eastern Church tradition, the faithful stand through nearly the entire service. Really. In some churches, there won't even be any pews, just a few chairs scattered at the edges of the room for the elderly and infirm. Expect some variation in practice; other churches, especially those who purchased already existing church buildings, will have well used pews. In any case, if you find the amount of standing too challenging, you are welcome to take a seat. It gets easier with practice.

3. By this sign, pray.

To say that we make the sign of the cross frequently would be an under-statement. We sign ourselves whenever the Trinity is invoked, whenever we venerate the cross or an icon, and on many other occasions in the course of the Liturgy. But people are not expected to do everything in the same way. Some cross themselves three times in a row, and some finish by sweeping their right hand to the floor. Often before venerating an icon, people will cross themselves twice, bowing each time with their right hand to the floor, then kiss the icon, then cross themselves and bow again. Don't worry, that doesn't mean you have to folllow suit.

We cross with our right hands, touching forehead, chest, right shoulder, then left shoulder to end over the heart, the opposite of Roman Catholics and Episcopalians. We hold our hands in a prescribed way: thumb and first two fingers pressed down to the palm. Here as elsewhere, the Eastern Rite people's impulse is to make everything we do reinforce the Faith. Can you figure out the symbolism? (The three fingers pressed together represent the Trinity; the two fingers against the palm represent the two natures of Christ.)

4. What, no kneeling?

Generally, we do not kneel on Sundays. We do sometimes prostrate. This is not like prostration in the Western Catholic tradition, lying out flat on the floor. To make a prostration we kneel, place our hands on the floor and touch our foreheads between our hands. At first, prostration feels embarrassing, but no one else is embarrassed, so after awhile it feels more natural.

Sometimes we do this and get right back up again, as during the prayer of St. Ephraim the Syrian, which is used frequently during Lent. Other times we get down and stay there awhile, as during a portion of the Eucharistic Prayer.

Not everyone prostrates. Some kneel, some stand with head bowed, or sit crouched over. Standing there feeling awkward is all right, too. No one will notice if you do not prostrate. In Eastern Churches there is an acceptance of individualized expressions of piety, rather than the sense that people are watching you and getting offended if you do it wrong.

One former Episcopal priest said that seeing people prostrate themselves was one of the things that made him most eager to become a member of the Eastern Church. He thought, "Thats how we should be before God."

5. Pucker up, We kiss things.

When we first come into the church, we kiss the icons (Jesus on the feet and saints on the hands, ideally). You will also notice that some kiss the chalice, some kiss the edge of priests vestment as he passes by, the acolytes kiss his hand when they give him the censer, and we all line up to kiss the cross at the end of service.

We kiss each other (Greet one another with a kiss of love, 1 Peter 5, 14) before we take communion. When Roman Catholics or Episcopalians pass the peace, they give a hug, handshake, or peck on the cheek; that is how Westerners greet each other. In Eastern tradition different cultures are at play; Greeks and Arabs kiss once on each cheek; the Slavs come back again for a third. Parishes with lots of American converts may give a hearty bear hug. Follow the lead of those around and try not to bump your nose.

The usual greeting is "Christ is in our midst", with response, "He is and shall be." Do not be worried about getting it wrong. The greeting is not the previously familiar "The peace of the Lord be with you," nor is it "Hi, nice church you have here."

6. Blessed bread and Consecrated Bread.

Only Orthodox may take Communion in an Orthodox Church, but you are in a Ukrainian Catholic Church of the Eastern - Byzantine Rite and if you are a good standing Catholic even of Roman Catholic Rite, you can participate in all our services and sacraments. It will be better for you to be prepared for it, and to understand what this is all about. If you are not ready yet for full participation in Divine Liturgy and you have some abjection to receiving Holy Communion - you can have some blessed bread distributed in our chuch after anointing with Holy Oil, we call it 'Myrovania." We also have it on the occasion of special feasts.

Here is how it works: the round communion loaf, baked by a parishioner, is imprinted with a seal "IX-CX HI-KA" - Isus Christos Nika - in Greek language - "Jesus Christ - Victor". In the Preparation Service - Proskomydia before the Liturgy, the celebrant cuts out a section of the seal and sets it aside; it is call the Ahnets - "Lamb". The rest of the bread is cut up and placed in a large basket, and blessed by the priest, and then distributed for the congregation. We Ukrainians, in our church also have distribution of "Artos" after Easter and "Prosfora" before Christmas. During the Eucharistic Prayer, the Lamb is consecrated to be the Body of Christ, and the chalice of wine is consecrated as His Blood. Here is the surprising part: the priest placed the Lamb in the chalice. When we receive Communion, we file up to the priest, standing and opening our mouths wide while he gives us a piece of the wine-soaked bread from a spoon. He also prays over us, calling us by our first name or by the saint-name which we chose when we were baptized or chrismated (received into the Church).

As we file past the priest, we come to an altar boy holding a basket of blessed bread. People will take a portion for themselves and for visitors and Catholic friends around them. If someone hands you a piece of blessed bread, do not panic; it is not the Eucharistic Body. It is a sign of fellowship.

7. No general confession?

In our experience, we don't have any general sins; they are all quite specific and personal. There is no complete confession prayer in the Liturgy. Eastern Christians are expected to be making regular, private confession to Christ in the presence of their priest.

The role of the pastor is much more that of a spiritual father than it is in other denominations. He is not called by his first name alone, but referred to as "Father Firstname." His wife (if he is married) also holds a special role as parish mother, and she gets a title too, though it varies from one culture to another. Some of the titles used are "Khuria" (Arabic), or "Presbitera" (Greek), both of which means "priest's wife"; or "popadia, matushka, which means "Mama" (Russian), imost', pani dobrodiyka (Ukrainian).

Another difference you will probably notice is in the Nicene Creed, which may be said or sung, depending on the parish. In the Creed we affirm that the Holy Spirit proceeds from the Father, but we don't add "and the Son," as Western denominations do. In this we adhere to the Creed as it was originally written.

8. Music, music, music.

About seventy-five percent of the service is congregational singing. Traditionally, the East use no instruments, although some churches will have organs. Usually a small choir leads the people in a cappella harmony, with the level of congregational response varying from parish to parish. The style of music varies as well, from very Oriental-sounding solo chant in an Arabic church to more Western-sounding four-part harmony in a Ukrainian, Russian or Byzantine church, with lots of variations in between.

This constant singing is a little overwhelming at first; it feels like getting on the first step of an escalator and being carried along in a rush until you step off ninety minutes later. It has been fairly said that the Liturgy is one continuous song.

What keeps this from being exhausting is that it's pretty much the same song every week. Relatively little changes from Sunday to Sunday; the same prayers and hymns fall in the same places, and before long you know it by heart. Then you fall into the presence of God in a way you can never when flipping from prayer book to bulletin to hymnal.

9. No shortcuts.

Is there a concise way to say something? Can extra adjectives be deleted? Can the briskest, most pointed prose be boiled down one more time to a more refined level? Then it's not Eastern worship. If there is a longer way to say something, the Easterners will find it. In Eastern worship, more is always more, in every area including prayer. When the priest or deacon intones, "Let us complete our prayer to the Lord," expect to still be standing there fifteen minutes later.

The original Liturgy lasted something over five hours; those people must have been on fire with God. The Liturgy of St. Basil edited this down to about two and a half, and later (around A.D. 400) the Liturgy of St. John Chrysostom further reduced it to about one and a half. Most Sundays we use the St. John Chrysostom Liturgy, although for some services (e.g. Sundays in Lent, Christmas Eve) we use the longer Liturgy of St. Basil.

When you arrive for Divine Liturgy on Sunday morning, worship will already be in progress and you will feel chargrined at arriving later. You are not late; the priests, cantors, and some parishioners are just winding up Matins, which began around an hour before. Divine Liturgy follows on its heels, with the posted starting time only approximate. Before Matins, the priest has other preparatory services; he will be at the altar for a total of over three hours on Sunday morning, "standing in the flame," as one Orthodox priest put it. Eastern worship is not for people who find church boring.

10. I'm just wild about Mary.

We love her and it shows. What can we say? She is His Mom. We often address her as "Theotokos", which means "Mother of God - gave birth to God". In providing the physical means for God to become man, she made possible our salvation.

Not that we think she or any of the other saints have magical powers or are demigods. When we sing "Holy Theotokos, save us," we don't mean "save" in an eternal sense, as we would pray to Christ; we mean "protect, defend, take care of us here on earth." Just as we ask for each other's prayer, we ask for the prayers of Mary and the other saints as well. They're no dead, after all, just departed to the other side. Icons surronund us, in part, to remind us that all the saints are joining us invisibly in our worship.

11. The three doors.

Every Eastern church will have an iconostasis before the altar. "Iconostasis" means "Icon-Stand." In a mission parish it can be as simple as a large image of the Virgin and Child on an easel on the left, and a matching image of Christ on an easel on the right. In a more established church, the iconostasis may be a literal wall, adorned with many icons.

The basic set-up of two large icons creates, if you use your imagination, three doors. The central opening, in front of the altar itself, usually has two doors, called the "Royal Doors", because that is where the King of Glory comes out to the congregation in the Eucharist. Only a bishop, a priest, and deacons who bear the Eucharist use the Royal Doors.

The two openings on the other sides of the two main icons, if there is a complete iconostasis, have icons of angels: they are termed the "Deacon's Doors." Altar boys and others with business behind the altar use these, although no one is to go through any of the doors without appropriate liturgical reason. Altar service - priest, deacons, altar boys - is restricted to males. Females are invited to participate in every other area of church life. Their contribution has been honored equally with that of males since the days of the martyrs; you can't look around our church without seeing Mary and the other holy women. in most Eastern Churches women do everything else men do: lead congregational singing, paint icons, teach classes, read epistle, and serve on the parish council.

12. Are Americans welcome?

Flipping through the Yellow Pages in a large city you might see a multiplicity of Eastern and Orthodox Churches: Greek, Romanian, Russian, Carpatho-Russian, Antiochian, Serbian, Byzantine, Ukrainian and on and on. Is Eastern or Orthodoxy really so tribal? Do these divisions represent theoretical squabbles and schism? -Not at all. All these churches are one church. The ethnic designation refers to what is called the parish's "jurisdiction" and identifies which bishops hold authority there. There are about 6 million Eastern and Orthodox Christians in North America and 250 million in the world, making Orthodoxy and Eastern Christianity the second largest Christian community.

The astonishing thing about this ethnic multiplicity is its theological and moral unity. Eastern churches throughout the world hold unanimously to the fundamental Christian doctines taught by the Apostles and handed down by their successors, the bishops, throughout the centuries. The also hold to the moral standards of the Apostles - abortion and homosexual behavior remain sins in their view.

One could attribute this unity to the Holy Spirit. Why then the multiplicity of ethnic churches? These national designations obviously represent geographic realities. Since North America is also a geographic unity, one day we will likewise have a unified national church. This was the plan of all Russian Orthodox churches, but due to a number of complicated historical factors, it didn't happen that way. Instead, each ethnic group of people immigrating to this country developed its own church structure. This multiplication of jurisdictions is a temporary abberation, in view of many, and much prayer and planning is going into breaking through these unnecessary walls.

Currently the largest American jurisdictions are the (GOA) Greek Orthodox Archdiocese, (OCA) the Orthodox Church in America (Russian roots), and the Antiochian Archdiocese (Middle Eastern roots). We have also Ukrainian Churches, Ukrainian Autecephalus Orthodox Church, and our Ukrainian Catholic Churches in Eparcy of Chicago, Parma, Stamford and Archdiocese of Philidelphia. The Church of Our Lady of Perpetual Help Ukrainian Catholic Church in Wheeling WV belongs to St. Josaphat Diocese in Parma, Ohio where bishop John Bura is our Eparch.

Services in all those churches will differ in the language used, the type of music, and a few other particulars, but the Liturgy is substantially the same in all.

We wish it could be said that every local parish eagerly welcomes newcomers, but some are still so close to their immigrant experience that they are mystified as to why outsiders would be interested. Visting several parishes will help you learn where you are most comfortable. You will probably be looking for one that uses plenty of English in its services. Many parishes with high proportions of converts will have services entirely in English.

Eastern Right, devotion, piousness and worship seems startlingly different at first, but as the weeks go by it gets to be less so. It will begin to feel more and more like home, and it will draw you into the Kingdom of God.

We hope that your first visit to our church will be enjoyable, and that it won't be your last.